February Is the Month of Love However Not everyone feels that way.
This month Is all about the Chinese New year which starts on Feb 4th, of course, we are all getting ready making room for the New energies to arrive. However, some of us, are ready and waiting for that someone special to arrive into their life.
So- we don’t want to be Rude it is a very special time for us Feng shui People here in North America. Kung Hei Fat Choi. From CircleofWealth.ca
Most of my readers turn to Feng Shui and Law of Attraction to help them Attract and find the love of their Life, I decided to make February all about Love this month.
Here’s What we covered this Love Focused Month of February.
In Case you Missed it, here is the list:
Week One – we learned what’s wrong with our love Chi and how to go about Fixing it.
Did You Find your Chi?
Week Two – How to Bring Your Sexy back into the bedroom- it really was simple with a little Feng Shui Vision and some practical tips.
Week Three- the Focus is on How to figure out if you are in the wrong relationship – not all of us are so lucky to identify this. I listed out a few red flags to help with that. Which you can read all about here.
Week Four- is all about Being Grateful and showing Love and Appreciation and enjoying the time you spend with that Special Person that you are with. Which I personally believe is key.
Ready Ladies and Gents?
Ever Feel Like you’re maybe not in the right relationship?
Specifically, I have had this conversation and coaching session with many regarding how-to-tell-if-you-are-dating-or-with-the-right-man?
Then this Article I wrote for you.
I know it’s hard sometimes, You feel like things are going well when you are together. However, sometimes he just doesn’t seem to be available on many levels, that has made you feel insecure. The feelings are usually in the pit of your stomach eating you up at night, sometimes to the point where you can’t even fall asleep.
Here are some things to watch out for, to tell if you are dating or with the right man.
Number 1 – Is he Emotionally – Unavailable?
He always looks perturbed or pre-occupied with his thoughts, the TV, or better still his phone. The second that phone text message beeps, he drops whatever he is doing and voila! He seems to not care about the conversations you have with him anymore. In other words, you feel that he is emotionally unavailable.
Number 2 – Physically – He is into his body more than yours.
Is he always at the gym working on his physique? I know your wondering does he even notice what I’m wearing today or that I got my hair cut, nails were done, eyelashes done, changed the color of my hair. Oh, and I hate to tell you, that many women change their hair color or do something drastic like chop of all the length if they feel insecure.
Number 3 – Financially -$-
If he is always short on change, or perhaps he is not able to pay his bills for the month and is constantly begging to borrow or asking for money from you, this is a bit of a disappointment as well. You are not his financial bank loan officer or his mom. Take notice of how many times recently you have been dreading his question of if he can borrow money from you even if it’s only five bucks here or there, just until he gets paid.
Please ask yourself, Has he paid you back the other little amounts he has borrowed from you? If he hasn’t why not? Is it because you let that slide for fear of losing him? Wake up please. that is usually a huge red flag.
Number 4- The Chat
By the chat, I mean that you feel that you need to sit him down and have “ the Chat” about your relationship.
The chat about your relationship usually means… you’re wondering how this relationship is going and if he feels like this whole dating thing is going anywhere.
“So what are we?” or “Where is this relationship going?” You keep wanting to have a chat with him. Perhaps you were hoping he would Pop the Big Question to get married or engaged soon. I know this can be very exciting especially if you have decided to move in together.
Does any of this Sound Familiar?
What you are really saying is I’m really into you and I am feeling insecure and noticing you are possibly he’s just not that Into you.
(a Good Movie by the way )
Am I Right?
Listen to your heart to make the right decision for yourself.
Most importantly- please Respect yourself first.
Do some Self Care checking in…
Check in with your self and Ask your self any of these questions.
- Would my mom or sister act this way or put up with all of the above-mentioned red flags?
- How would they react?
- How would you want your daughter to react? or perhaps your Sister?
- How do I feel when I am with him?
- Do I feel Loved and respected?
- Do I feel Like a Princess?
Yes, you deserve to be treated like a Princess!
You deserve to feel like you are important and have his attantion.
Not with all the monetary things, but by the way in which he treats you with kindness and respect and compassion and genuine interest and involvement in your life. That’s all.
Are you being too needy? When is that last time you went out with your girlfriends and just hung out? Be a little mysterious, be busy, don’t be available.
Here is why.
Ladies, if you have to ask a man, “so what are we?” or “where is this relationship going?” The answer is nowhere. Men by nature are hunters and go for what they want. If he wanted you to be his wife, he would have proposed. If he wanted you to be his lady, he would’ve asked you. Men go hard for what they truly want. If he is not going hard for you, you are not what he wants.
That right there was my inspiration for writing this article for you.
In Conclusion of how to tell if you are dating or with the right man?
Relationships are not meant for everybody. If you feel that you have to keep checking in on him and asking him about the pulse of your relationship, something is wrong and you may not be with the right person.
Please check in with yourself and see if you have the same hopes and dreams.
Here are some questions to check in with your self:
- Is this someone that you could see yourself growing old with?
- Having children with?
- Does he even want children?
- if Yes How many?
- Do you have the same career aspirations?
- Does this stand in your way of getting married and having children timelines for you?
Another question you should ask yourself is what if I were to get ill, how would he react?
If there is ever a time to test and understand someone’s unconditional love for you is when you are sick.
I’m not saying to go and fake sickness or death to get a reaction from him.
However, you probably can recall a time or two when you were feeling under the weatherand made note of his availability to visit.
These are all things that you need to consider when deciding if you are wasting your time with dating the right man or woman for that matter. sometimes, the lesson is not always about trying to fix something that is broken, it’s about starting over and creating something better, even if that means being by yourself.
I believe that it is better to be alone than in the wrong relationship and feeling lonely.
If you need help understanding what it is you are truly desiring why not create your Own Vision Board?
I have a blog post and video tutorial on how to create your own vision board. You can create one for your Relationship. Hope that helps you in determining if you are dating or with the right man.
I wish you the best of luck, I know it can be hard, But you always have to be honest with yourself first. that is your first and most important place to start. Your Relationship with You.
I have been thinking about creating a love Challenge for you as well! Does that sound like something you single peeps would be interested in?
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Hey! I used Feng Shui and Law of Attraction to find my soulmate, why not help you with finding yours?
See you Next Monday!